Writes poetry, must be gay
Posted By ROBIN ANDERSON
Posted 2 months ago
Dear Robin:I've been seeing a guy for almost a year. He is really sweet and treats me well, but I have a question. He likes to write poetry and songs for me. It makes me kind of embarrassed, and my friends think it is a joke and make fun of him. Could he secretly be gay?--
CONFLICT OF INTERESTS
Dear Conflict:Just because a guy enjoys poetry and songwriting does not make him gay. Why would it embarrass you? I think it is very sweet that he cares about and trusts you enough to show that side of himself. Tell your friends to knock it off, they are probably just jealous. Do you know how many famous musicians have sat and serenaded their ladies? I can assure you, the ladies probably weren't thinking "I wonder if he's gay?" The fact that there is this assumption when a guy shows a different side of himself could be one of the reasons it doesn't happen very often. Unless there are many, MANY other things involved that would make you think this way, change your mind-set and appreciate it, rather than questioning it
Dear Robin:I live with my girlfriend of three years and want to propose to her at Christmas. There is one problem -- her dad hates me. He was buddies with her ex, and thought they would get married. Then he cheated on her and they split. Now her dad doesn't trust anyone with her. He still makes comments about "when I leave her." She has no trust issues, but her dad sure does.
--I'M NOT WORTHY
Dear Not worthy:I think you should discuss this with him man to man, if for no other reason than to show respect for the dad, as well as for your future bride. If you've done nothing to deserve his cold shoulder, the act needs to go. Let him know that his nasty comments undermine your efforts to give his daughter the moon and stars. If you can't talk to him, talk to her mom and let her know your intentions. Write back and let me know how the proposal went, good luck!
Robin Anderson is the winner of Sun Media's National Advice Competition. Mail your questions to advice@sunmedia.ca.
